By Yerachmiel Lopin (Frum Follies blog)
October 20, 2013
Below is the victim statement read at the sentencing of Yosef Kolko on Thursday, October 17, 2013, 11:05-11:09 p.m. After the statement, Prosecutor Laura Pierro spoke about the victim’s bravery, suffering and integrity. At 11:17 Judge Francis Hodgson pronounced the sentence for the seven counts which included oral sex, attempted anal penetration and other offenses. The sentence of fifteen years was the maximum allowed under the mid-trial guilty plea. However, under New Jersey law he will get out of prison and go on probation somewhere in middle of his 13th year of imprisonment.
VICTIM SENTENCING STATEMENT
The first thing I would like to do is, to strongly encourage all victims out there currently suffering in silence, to stand up for themselves and others. I would like to let them know that they can and should, no matter what some people say or think; no matter the repercussions. It’s the right thing to do.
Know that an abuser never abuses just one, regardless of what anyone might have told you. If he did it to one, he did it to many; and he will continue doing it until he is stopped. It’s your right and obligation to stop him.
Abuse can be worse than murder; when an individual is killed they die once, but when an individual is abused they die again, and again, every single day.
If you are a victim, you are unfortunately very far from alone. Statistics prove that one out of seven males has been abused. This unfortunate reality is due to the fact that many molesters that could be stopped aren’t being stopped; and therefore continue murdering children every day. Therefore I strongly urge you to go to the authorities and report the abuse, share your story.
scales of justice and childNo, I can’t say it will be easy- it’s in-fact extremely draining. However, when it’s all done and you look back at what you accomplished, you will find that it was an integral part of the healing process. The more difficult it may be for you to do, the greater the feeling of accomplishment you will feel in the end. So, go on out and save people’s lives. Save others from going through the torture you are going through.
Secondly, my message to those monsters out there that are currently abusing, and to those considering it; just know that by abusing you will be end up behind bars! You will be exposed, and you will go through hell on earth. No, you won’t get away with it. Victims are gaining more and more strength every day and more and more of them are coming forward. Trying to bully people into silence is not being tolerated. It makes no difference how high of a position you or your family and friends hold. Nor does it matter how well respected you or your family and friends are. Having power over others won’t protect you anymore, and you will go down.
If you do feel the desire to molest, get help before it’s too late. Realize that by molesting you are killing innocent lives. These acts aren’t just simple acts that happen and then are forgotten. They truly mess with victim’s minds and emotions in a terrible way, for the rest of their lives. If you feel even the slightest feelings to molest, don’t just shrug away your feelings; get professional help immediately. Even if it may seem to you like a small thing; it’s really not. Molesting may seem harmless to you; but the reality is that it kills people with every touch; no matter how big or small. The molester may forget about it but the other person won’t, ever. So slightest feelings to molest, it is your responsibility to absolutely ensure that the action never actually happens. The way to do that is by getting professional help immediately.
Finally, it is difficult for me to even begin to talk to you [Yosef Kolko]. You’re worse than the worse thing possibly created. How can you just ignore the tears and open wounds when you know so well how much you hurt me?
Not only didn’t you act regretful and try to help me after what you did; but you ganged up against me and hurt me again after hurting and abusing me for so long. How can you kill innocent lives in cold blood and roam the streets as if you did absolutely, ,nothing wrong?
People tried so hard to help you and all you did was spit in their faces and continued murdering others. How can you consider yourself a human being?! You are so disgusting and low and you have hurt so many people cold bloodedly that you already got used to it; your heart turned to stone.
Remorse is not a quality you have. It’s one thing to slip up, have a weak moment, and make a mistake; but you didn’t even try to help yourself. You just kept ruining lives for your disgusting pleasure.
Just a drop of remorse or a will to be helped would have saved you a day like today. You were busy being so stubborn hiding the truth. You caused this to yourself.
It’s your ego and stubbornness that got you here, not me. I did what I had to do; it was your lack of doing what you had to do that caused you this.